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The Fundamentals To Goal Setting

The Fundamentals To Goal Setting: 10 Steps to Achieving Impactful Goals

Many set the same New Year’s resolutions every year, hoping to see different results. They are stuck in the same cycle of setting goals, forgetting about them or failing to achieve or even to start them. What might not be surprising is that only 8% achieve their goals. 

It seems modern society encourages us to think about the next significant milestone or chase something new. However, we don’t think enough about accomplishing the goals with a strategy in mind. 

What is Goal Setting?

Goal setting is an intentional and detailed process that identifies a new pursuit, skill, or project and a plan for achieving it.

When you set goals, you take control of your life’s direction. Goals provide you with focus and clarity. Your decisions and actions should bring you closer to achieving those goals. 

“it is a never-ending path but we can enjoy the journey on the way” 

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The real challenge is not deciding if you want the result but accepting the sacrifices required to achieve your goal. You must consider if you want the lifestyle that accompanies that goal. This is where planning is essential as it will identify what must change to accomplish the goal. 

Before the exhilarating and enchanting outcome, do you want the dull and unappealing process? Everybody wants a gold medal, but not everybody wants to train like an Olympian.

Goal setting is about choosing the rewards you want and the sacrifice you are willing to pay.

How to Set Goals You'll Follow in 10 Steps

1. Start With Why

To identify the goal you want to achieve, you need to start with why you want to achieve it in the first place. It has to be something meaningful to you and not what is expected. For example, if you consider being a parent in the next five years, your why might be healthy to keep up with your child’s play activities and sports. A parent would need plenty of energy from rest, mindfulness, diet, movement and more. An expectation could be societies pressure to be skinny. The latter isn’t your personal motivator and will cause you internal conflict when trying to achieve your goal. Whereas the former is a more compelling and exciting reason to be working on your health. 

2. Prioritise the Ultimate Goal

Before you set the Ultimate Goal, take a closer look at what you’re trying to achieve and ask yourself the following questions: 

  • Does the goal allow you to get closer to your why?
  • Is this goal something you genuinely want right now? 
  • Is it important enough for the necessary effort and lifestyle change? 

If you’re unwilling to put in the time and effort, it may not be worth pursuing. Everything in life comes down to priorities and what you would like to achieve – conscious choices and subconscious decisions. Life becomes a series of messy experiences you struggle to manage without setting goals or objectives. You become the plaything of coincidence. 

One of the most significant obstacles to achieving goals is other goals. Sometimes you can overestimate your achievements which leave you struggling with your time and attention. Whenever you work on a new goal, you are taking focus and energy from your other goals. 

One of the quickest ways to make progress on your Ultimate Goal is to wait on less essential goals and focus on one Ultimate Goal at a time. It would be best to reorganise your priorities to allow improvement to come faster because you are now fully committed. 

3. Process, Not Outcome

Focusing on the process is one of the most challenging parts of setting and achieving goals. Due to the nature of a goal, you start with the end in mind. However, it’s the tiny steps you take to get there that matter. For example, the outcome you want to achieve is confidence in large public speaking events. That’s the goal. But working towards this goal, you discover that you are most comfortable in small interactive groups. Did you fail at achieving this goal? Not if you believe in the power of the process. 

In good time, you will build up the courage to speak publicly to large audiences, but you’re less inclined to keep trying if you think you’ve failed. 

4. Plan For It

Many choose an Ultimate Goal but never create an action plan to determine how they will achieve it. Your action plan should include all the necessary steps you need to take to get there – no matter how small they may appear. Grab a piece of paper and get writing. This will help you with the next step. 

As mentioned earlier, you need to be sure you are willing your change your lifestyle to get closer to achieving your Ultimate Goal. Now is the time to create the Evolving Goals, which change as you grow. They are designed for the next three months and focus on the habit changes.

If you want to be that parent with high energy, the habit could focus on regular sleeping for the next three months.

If you want confidence in public speaking, the habit could be reading a script out loud at home. 

5. Habit Stacking

There was a study that asked the participants to complete the following: “During the next week, I will partake in at least 20 minutes of vigorous exercise on [DAY] at [TIME OF DAY] at/in [PLACE].” The conclusion of this research shows that you are between 2x to 3x more likely to stick to your goals if you make a specific plan for when, where, and how. 

After/Before [CURRENT HABIT], I will [NEW HABIT].

Here are some examples:

  • Sleep. After I have my dinner, I will read my book and rest my mind.
  • Meditation: Before I have my morning shower, I will meditate for ten minutes.
  • Situps: Before I make my bed, I will do 30 situps.
  • Water: Before I leave the house for work, I will drink some water.
  • Emails: After I’ve had my lunch, I will complete my emails. 
  • Job hunting: After I have my dinner, I will email my CV to the job I want.

Habit stacking and implementation intentions help us move from the goal in our heads to the specific process that will make it a reality.

6. Write Your Goals Down

When you write your goals down, they become real and tangible instead of a vague idea that lives in your mind. Once you’ve written your goals, keep them somewhere visible. Put them on your wardrobe doors, near your computer screen, or on the mirror in the bathroom for when you brush your teeth. Look at it weekly or, better yet, daily.

This tactic reminds you to keep working on your goals often. As you’re writing down your goals, use a positive tone, so you stay excited about achieving them.

7. Align Your Environment With Your Goals

Many of the decisions we make in our lives result from our surroundings.

Before sleeping, browsing social media is likely to be the default action if you go to bed with your phone in your hands. Eating is more likely the default action if your cupboards are filled with biscuits and cakes.

The same can be said for positive surroundings.

By storing a kettlebell next to your sofa, you are more likely to do kettlebell swings instead of sitting watching TV. Drinking water instead of coffee is more likely to be the default action if you have a bottle of water on your desk. 

8. Make It Public

You are more likely to stick to the goals if you tell someone about them. Share it on social media and provide updates. The encouragement can keep you accountable. 

9. Measure Your Goals

We all love to receive feedback – it is very human. The boost in our motivation is when we can see our progress. This doesn’t have to be validated by others. It can be an internal validation. Not everyone will understand your why as they have a different direction to travel in. Measurement is so critical for practical goal setting. By measuring your results, you get insight into whether you are making progress.

Check out the SMART goal setting PDF.

10. Take Action And Evolve Your Goals

Now that you’ve planned everything out, it’s time to take action. You didn’t go through all that work to forget about your goal. Every step you take should lead to another until you finish your Evolving Goal, and then it is time to repeat the process until you achieve the Ultimate Goal.

What shall you do now? 

Join the Goals & Accountability group for £39 per month or book in a call with me. I can help you find the right course of action for YOU. We can talk about your dreams, goals, desires and map out how you can achieve them.

Take the steps today to build your tomorrow!

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Vanquish procrastination, work less to achieve more and free up brain space!

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Vanquish procrastination, work less to achieve more and free up brain space!

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You can avoid procrastination by making tasks more attractive and rewarding.

In a survey, a staggering 31% of respondents spent at least an hour a day procrastinating and 26% spent two hours or more. Add up those hours for one year, and you’ll soon realise the impact this has on your performance.

So why is procrastination such a challenge? There are a number of reasons, today we tap into specific attributes of the task that make them so unappealing.

The top six attributes that increase procrastination are: boring, frustrating, difficult, unstructured / ambiguous, lacking in personal meaning and lacking in rewards.

If you have one or more of these attributes, the task at hand becomes harder!

In order to overcome this problem is by making tasks appear more attractive.

Let’s talk about the most boring task of all time (unless this is your full-time job)… TAX!

I am confident that many would prefer to stub their toe multiple times than do their tax forms. 

But we can spice it up with creative thinking… 

Consider doing your mundane tasks somewhere inspiring; in a cute cafe with people-watching viewing spots, at a local open park, host a tax-party with other entrepreneurs.

Create your own personal reward system that is compelling enough to get the work done. Treat yourself to a gift you’ve wanted, have a high-end lunch that you wouldn’t usually do, or gift yourself some relaxation time.

Tasks do not have to be uninspiring and lacking in reward. You can shake it up.

Take control of your schedule such that you are using your energy and attention as best you can.

Overworking is inefficient, so keep your workweek well under 50 hours. It is not true that working more means you get more done. A lot of the time the work created is budget or has to be re-done. High-achievers do not waste time and energy on semi-decent projects. They excel. They work wisely.

After testing out a 20-hour (4 hours for 5 days) to a 90-hour work-week (15 hours for 6 days), I discovered that I generated almost the same amount of work. This is on-trend with other experts who have tested this theory. 

Know that the amount of energy and attention you apply is directly related to the amount of time you have. In other words, I found less energy and attention during a 90-hour week and was able to be as focused and energised for a 20-hour week to get the same tasks done.

Aim for around a 35 – 40 hours per week working schedule and avoid anything more than this amount as it will start to negatively affect your productivity. This style of working is optimal for energy and concentration. 

Here is a shocking stat for you – as revealed in a compilation of 150 years of research, those who work more than 60 hours, a single task will take twice as long to complete. 

Free up some brain space by getting it out of your head and putting it on paper. 

Pen to paper or fingertips to mobile notepad is a simple yet effective act. It can relieve our brain from overthinking and reciting what needs to get done, to free up mental space to perform each task.

Have you ever been to the shops and then forget what you went there for? Our brain is not set up for this kind of information storage. Only a small number of people have the ability to recall all 25 items from their grocery list after multiple distractions from leaving the house to arriving at the shops.

This same principle applies to completing tasks.

If you want to declutter your mind and sharpen your performance, write the to-do list, brainstorm ideas and create an action plan.

Before you start the week, create a list of actions that are important to move you forward then assign them to your daily plan as you see fit. You will appreciate the extra brainpower when it comes to completing them. 

Get it out of your head and on to paper, laptop or mobile device.

To summaries, being productive isn’t only about getting more done but rather it’s about working smarter. Simply find efficient ways and making the most of your time, focus and energy. Acknowledge what’s most important for you to get closer to your vision and then complete the task in the most efficient way possible.

Join high-achievers in a 12-week fast track program to acquire the skills that allow them to declutter their mind, sharpen their performance and increase energy.

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Don’t Let Fear Hold You Back

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Don’t Let Fear Hold You Back

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Our brains can detect potentially dangerous situations and our natural instinct is to stay safe. So when the going gets tough, guess what we will do? 

Yep, we will keep ourselves in our comfort zone!

The zone of no growth.

Yellow people actively reflect and plan for the future. They identify what is holding them back and are ruthless on their journey to success. 

We all have some or all of the 7 fears types. The challenge we have is allowing fears to control us instead of managing them.

When we crush fears, it allows us to get through the storm to enjoy the beauty in life.

What personally held me back for many years was being judged and not accepted, in society and within my career. So I stayed safe at the detriment of my own wellbeing and career development. It was me who lost in that situation.

The day I woke up to my fears, I learned how to use them to my advantage so that my life started to change for the better. 

I launched my own business in a field that I had never worked in before. I knew my passion, and I owned my fears.

Are you ready to be bold too?

So what are the 7 types of fear?

The procrastinator

The Procrastinator is closely linked with the perfectionist. These people must perfect everything, and so obsess with the end product. The planning stages never quite gets finished or if they do start, they struggle to stop until it has been “perfected” to their very high standards. 

The Rule Follower 

is exactly as it sounds! Compelled to act and behave accordingly to the clear definitions of what’s right and wrong, even if it’s at the expense of your own success. Rule followers constantly think about making the right decision and what they might miss out on if they took the one option and not the other. 

People Pleaser

Struggling with the fear of being judged or worry about what others think about you. God forbid someone might be disappointed – people-pleasers would do whatever the other wants instead. Saying no is a challenge. Having boundaries even harder. 

Pessimist

Are fearful of adversity or pain. Hard times in life feel more like stop signs rather than stepping stones to success. They believe that old problems get in the way of them moving forward.

An outcast

is common for entrepreneurs. Others see them as fearless but deep down, an outcast is afraid of rejection so they push away people first. Asking for help is another problem to overcome. Trusting others to achieve an outcome is a constant internal battle when they want to do it all themselves. 

^ this was me! I felt like I was not good enough in my role, and if I exposed myself, I may be fired. I never asked for help and went on to limit my personal and career development 🙁

Self-Doubters

The deep feelings of insecurity about their capabilities. Seeing the world as an opportunity is difficult when they are so “stuck” in moving forward. Judging others who take big leaps is a way of hiding their own fears.

Excuse Maker 

We all know a few of these. Excuse makers rarely take responsibility for their life choices and goals are a mammoth challenge. Instead of taking the bold step to lead, they take a “laid back” approach to life. They find it easier for others to make decisions for them. Excuse makers always find a reason to not start, they tend to be in lack of something like money, time, a team etc. 

Each of these fears requires a particular thought pattern to reprogramme it. 

The main thing to note is that without knowing which fear is holding you back and learning how to step out of your comfort zone, you will continue to repeat the same things over and over again. 

WANT TO LEARN YOUR FEAR TYPE & WHAT YOU CAN DO ABOUT IT?

Schedule your call with me, go through a questionnaire to identify your fear type and together we can devise a plan to overcome the fear in order to achieve your biggest goals. 

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Productivity: Why, What & When?

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Productivity: Why, What & When?

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Most of us would love to be more productive, but find it a real struggle to get a handle on our tasks and accountabilities.

What may surprise you is that productivity is not about doing more. It is about working smarter on the important tasks and by managing your time, focus and energy.

The typical Grey Person works at such a frenzied pace that their intentions become dispersed and fails to see the meaning and value of their work. Meanwhile, a Yellow Person takes the time each day to be at peace and reflect upon what’s meaningful and works in balance.

The optimum working pace is to identify what’s important and purposeful enough to accomplish your goals. To find this perfect pace, you need to manage your time, focus and energy – the exact same values I honour every single day and a master of.

And so, I bring you keys to becoming productive in a balanced way. 

After all, you can have all the energy in the world, but you won’t accomplish much without a well-managed schedule. On the flip side, you might have a well-structured plan to finish your tasks, but it’s useless if you’re wasting all your energy on something or someone else.

On top of this, both time and energy is wasted when your mind is constantly wandering and cluttered, which is why focus is the third key to the productivity formula.

How you can increase productivity by recognising your personal values and motivations, then planning for your day and week. 

Step 1: Before you do anything, you need to find your why. This is your motivation. 

They’ll help you create the right schedule that keeps you on track toward your goals. If you try to skip this step, there’s a strong chance you’ll be faced with bad habits and poor routines that will work against you and not for you. Particularly in the long run. 

I made this mistake when he first set out to become more productive. I would stop going out with friends to avoid drinking alcohol, so that I could lose the weight. Or so I believed. 

With the extra time and energy saved from being with my friends, I would invest it by going to the gym 8 hours per week. Many months later, it dawned on me that I was just performing this schedule so others believed I was accomplishing a lot – but there was little personal satisfaction for me. In other words, I hadn’t thought about why I wanted to be more productive, which made it impossible to create a schedule that matched this goal.

What I truly desired was to have more energy to be active with my friends. What was missing was the quality time. It was as simple as changing our habits of drinking alcohol to doing more active activities together. The weight loss was a byproduct of this.

I went from: time, energy and focus in the gym to achieve weight loss. Lasting 3 months.

To: time, energy and focus of being healthy with friends. Still on-going, 4 years later! 

To avoid the mistake I made, you can ask yourself a simple yet effective question to identify your why: 

if you were given an additional 2 hours per day, what would you do?

By answering this question, it should point you in the direction of the true why for greater productivity.

Do you want to spend more time with friends and family? Consider that you’re most strongly motivated by the values of relationships and meaningful connections. If so, you probably wouldn’t benefit from a schedule that keeps you away from an active social life.

To recap on step 1: consider your reason for wanting to be more productive to begin with. Ask yourself, what’s important and meaningful…FOR YOU and not for SOMEONE ELSE? Remove the negative narrative, social norms and expectations. It is your life. Live it how you want it to be. 

Step 2: By answering these questions, you are designing a sustainable schedule and becoming more productive. Now it is time to ask WHAT & WHEN are you going to perform the tasks that close the gaps between. 

A useful tip for a good weekly schedule is to improve your efficiency by selecting the top 3 tasks to complete for the week. Then break them into smaller tasks for each day. Making them super manageable and achievable, without burning out or overwhelming yourself with getting them done. 

Your top 3 tasks can be anything from; spending time with the family, starting the brainstorming for your next project, meditating with intention, organising the food cupboard, paying the bills, updating the website with new content. 

With these tasks in place, your end-of-the-day tasks might be to arrange a lunch with your parents, finish the next chapter of the book, decide the topic for your next blog post and book a meeting room for brainstorming.

It might sound simple, but that’s part of why it’s so effective. By looking ahead at what you want to have accomplished both day by day and week by week, you’re already figuring out how best to structure your time, focus and energy on what’s important.

To ensure the tasks are not too ambitious or unrealistic, check your calendar. Consult your calendar to make sure you haven’t already dedicated your time and energy to another task. 

For example, if you are deciding which content to create and publish, but your calendar reminds you of the 3-day workshop, it may be best to focus on preparing, reflecting and relaxing instead of overloading. Full-day events are super tiring even if you are sedentary. Give yourself time to replenish. 

To recap on step 2: being productive also means being smart about your daily and weekly schedule, so don’t set yourself up for failure by setting unattainable tasks and overloading yourself.

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If you are like many, uncovering your why is no easy task as our education system hasn’t taught us to be self-aware and emotionally intelligent. Book your free 60-minute call with me where we can break down the surface level fluff and get to your root why.

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Have a fantastic day and remember, when you are feeling Grey, Go To Yellow with these simple tools and techniques.

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You Can Make An Impact

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You Can Make An Impact

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If you feel like your voice will not be heard, that you have no authority or feel like you’re too young…. Remember this girl, Greta Thunberg.

A 17-year-old Swedish environmental activist on climate change whose campaigning has gained international awareness. She began her journey by asking her parents to make lifestyle choices to reduce their carbon footprint. From there she started spending her school days outside Swedish parliament and then regular student strikes every week around the world began. 

Today, she held a speech and a march in Bristol with an enthusiastic audience of between 15,000 – 30,000 people.

Her ask of people is to act to save the planet. 

“This is an emergency. People are already suffering and dying from the consequences of the climate and environmental emergency but it will get worse.”

Furthermore, she comments about how our politicians and those in power for betraying the world’s youth. 

“This emergency is being completely ignored by politicians, the media and those in power.” “World leaders are behaving like children, so it falls on us to be the adults in the room.”

Her audience is captivated and supportive of the climate change movement. 

What makes Greta Thunberg different?

Notice how she has built an audience with mixed ages, ethnic backgrounds and from around the world. She leads with her purpose, has massive passion in her heart, addresses a big problem and shows up! This is the recipe for your movement, amongst other things, but this is a great starting point. 

Greta is no different from you. 

You have the power to start that business you’ve dreamed of, to add value to the executive board meetings, to start a local change campaign. 

Whatever it might be. You can become a leader with your superpowers!

But I don’t know what my superpowers are, Tammy!

I can relate to those who feel insignificant. 

I was a suppressed saleswoman for a long time. The senior male decision-makers would ask my male counterparts for advice and solutions rather than me. In the end, I adopted a masculine approach to get noticed. I felt as though I couldn’t bring my unique self to a meeting, a negotiation or even at socials. If I wanted authority I had to dress like a businesswoman, speak logically and direct, I had to brush up my knowledge on cars and Rolex watches and I laughed at the sexual innuendos. Just to be accepted. 

I became conditioned to being this person and justifying it as normal. I couldn’t see the impact it had on my uniqueness and finding my superpowers.

Had I realised the only block in my way was me, I would have done things differently.

After taking time to rebrand who I am today (because we evolve over time) and by going through the Your Vision Awakened program, I now embrace and leverage my uniqueness. Not only do I have my own thriving business with a mission just like Greta Thunberg, but I also feel alive by being my true self. 

People follow my movement and are awakened to a new way of thinking and being in this modern world. I may be small today with lots of work to do, but I will have a large movement in good time. 

And just like Greta Thunberg, I lead with purpose, massive passion in my heart, address a big problem and show up.

But I don’t have the resources!

Granted, Greta Thunberg has a team supporting her movement but once upon a time not so long ago, it started with just Greta.

The single biggest inspiration is seeing the impact. Once one person’s life is changed, you can’t stop. They will remember you forever and be forever grateful. You know that there are many other people waiting for your help and so you lead with passion.

You just need to start and keep up the momentum. Where you focus your mind, energy will flow to keep pursuing your passion. Resources will stop becoming your problem when you hone in on your movement. 

So remember, it only takes one person to start an ovation. Eventually, there will be two, three and four more. Until the whole crowd will be on their feet. 

I hope I’ve instilled a new belief, that no matter your age, you have the power to start a movement.

Start your standing ovation today!

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The Power Of Connection In The Workplace

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The Power Of Connection In The Workplace

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With Christmas being a distant memory, many people will be low in energy and miss the social vibes they had over the festive period. Having regular connections with others is paramount to good mental health and overall wellbeing. 

Here is how you can be more yellow: find your tribe or at the very least a close ally, at work, will help energise and empower you to keep on growing. If you are lacking in this area, seek out new groups whether in person or online and never underestimate the power of connecting and supporting each other in the workplace!

For the women in the workplace, this is for you.

For men who care about empowering women to succeed, this is for you. 

Supporting others throughout our own journeys can have lasting benefits to both us as individuals as well as the teams and organisations that we work within. Win-win. 

As we spend the vast majority of our lives with those we work with, it’s so important to connect fully and empower others, at all levels <– take note of this. 

Offering professional support as well as personal support can be the difference between success and failure.

What has become the norm, is females succeeding in male-dominated work culture, and behaving like them. This behaviour has been a key to female colleagues distancing themselves from any position of friendship or mentorship with these female leaders, as they struggle to display a non-emotional response in the workplace; a typically male trait and not a female trait. Sometimes I need a little cry. Sometimes I want to hide in a dark room from embarrassment. Sometimes I am unable to control my facial reaction from creepy comments. 

However logical this behaviour is, it shows that there is still the issue with inequality in top organisational roles; even in 2020. With similar female to male ratios of entry-level staff, these figures drastically drift further apart as you head up the corporate ladder; with an even more significant drop for non-white women. The startling statistic to evidence this is that only one in ten senior positions are female! Shocking. 

Another issue we face is the culture of competition. This can hinder any attempts to unify teams and can ultimately cause toxic working environments. When a team works against each other, communication will suffer, as will results. 

Research shows that women, more often than not, are penalised for empowering one another. The remedy for being penalised for supporting women is to promote it with power and pride. 

Crazy, I know!

But fear not, the standing ovation of change is rising. 

We all have a role to play, men and women. So listen up….

The advantages of women actively supporting each other in the workplace are clear. When we communicate and offer a safe space to be who we truly are, we can find more opportunities and motivation to succeed. Having your personal cheerleader can help uplift you and give you the confidence to shine in whatever you do.

Any organisations we work for can reap the benefits of such a supportive culture with increased productivity and loyalty.

To achieve this, female leaders must realise that they play a major part in changing the workplace culture and must step up to assert these ideals within our workplaces. They must open up the conversations and help find the safe spaces for women to feel comfortable to discuss their challenges and celebrate their successes. 

These female leaders need to be the pioneers and reach out to their female colleagues, on all levels, and mentor where needed and offer advice, openly.

The rise in women’s organisations and professional networks excites me but there is still so much work that needs to be done. The support we give can only have a positive impact on changing the culture of business in general and is as important on all levels of connection between women both professionally and personally.

This change can start with one person and doesn’t need an extensive plan to be effective. It can start with a chat whilst a kettle boils, a heart to heart over lunch or just an email to offer help if needed.

If we want equality in the workplace, both women and men, we must initiate the change ourselves. We are essentially pack animals and without the pack, we can’t survive. We must come together for the benefit of all!

January does not need to be blue 😉 You choose to make it yellow when you take action. 

What are you going to do differently, today and for the foreseeable? Together is better than alone. 

Together on a journey to Yellow!

 

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5 Keys Leader Use To Get Ahead

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5 Keys Leader Use To Get Ahead

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We are inspired by role models in our society, and sometimes it feels like they are so perfect and there’s no way we can be like them.  But that’s not true! Successful people develop successful habits.  

Here are 5 just to get you started:  

  1. They have CLARITY on their vision, values, and priorities. To be more specific, they know what they want to achieve, what they stand for, and they make time for the activities that get them there.  Getting clear on these things acts like a compass to them. It directs their thoughts and actions. It tells them what to say YES to and what to say NO to.  
  2. They create a CONDUCIVE ENVIRONMENT.  Successful leaders work smart. And they know that there is power in surrounding themselves with great people. In their success group are role models they aspire to be, supportive peers to help them stay positive, and a coach to help them see what they don’t see. 
  3. They are ADAPTIVE COMMUNICATORS.  They know how to relate to different types of people.  They can inspire people to take action. They are a positive influence for their team and peers. As a result, they become a success magnet.   They spend less time chasing opportunities; instead, opportunities come to them. 
  4. They don’t just focus on the money.  They FOCUS ON EXCELLENCE. Money will come if you show value.  Therefore, money is the result; showing value is the cause. There’s no point stressing over results; just focus on what causes the results and get better on it.  And this mindset creates a more resourceful way of thinking – the kind of thinking innovators have. And because of that, they make better decisions. 
  5. They KEEP THEIR POSTURE. In a study at Stanford Business School, they examined the qualities in leadership. It concluded with two qualities for success are putting a team together and patience under pressure.  Staying calm under pressure requires a high level of mindfulness and practicing certain behaviours regularly. I help people identify the triggers that get them agitated, and help them to convert their habits to get back to calm.

So there it is the 5 keys! Easier said than done, you say? I agree.  My own experience implementing these 5 keys in my own life taught me that it’s not easy and I’m glad I had a coach to guide me along the way.  

Are you committed to your success? 

Invest 30 minutes with me and let’s get clear on which key you should start with, what impact it can make in your life, and how you can get started.  Let me ask you the key questions you’ll need to get rid of any limiting beliefs that may be holding you back.

Schedule your call here https://gotoyellow.co.uk/schedule-a-call/ and let’s get you to turn your dreams into reality

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The PERFECT Superwoman

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The PERFECT Superwoman

You do not have to be overwhelmed any more!

Taking back control of your life and giving yourself priority is achievable. Let me help you overcome The Perfect Superwoman person.  I will give you 30 minutes of my time free of charge and, in return, you will give me an open mind to explore yourselves deeper.  

Schedule your call here https://gotoyellow.co.uk/schedule-a-call/ and together we can craft the future for you!

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The Problem With Goal Setting

The Problem With Goal Setting

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THE PROBLEM WITH GOAL-SETTING

While 93% of the population set New Year’s resolutions, only 8% go on to achieve. So why don’t these goals get executed?  Perhaps many people have been following an ineffective approach. 

Let’s explore the reason why goals often don’t get implemented and what you can do differently.  

WHAT vs WHY? 

The goal is WHAT you want to achieve.  But lots of WHATs are not done because the WHY is not clear.  Here’s a common example. You know that daily exercise is good for you.  Many of you may have even set a daily goal to exercise. But only some of you are doing it.  Maybe you have a clear WHY, like a recent accident that made you realise how important it is to keep healthy… or trying to fit into a dress for a special event…  your WHY is very clear. 

But others fail to achieve their goal because they had less clarity on the WHY, or perhaps not emotionally-attached to their WHY.  So the WHAT is just an activity without a clear purpose. And before you know it, other things take priority.  

So before you set a goal, you must know why you are doing it in the first place. More importantly, it must be something that motivates YOU. Something deep and meaningful. 

There is a process I use to guide people to dig deep to their WHY.  And it’s surprising that when we get to your WHY, you’ll discover that your goals change.  You may not want to achieve the old WHAT you had previously planned. 

This may seem relatively simple, doesn’t it? But the challenge of digging your own WHY is that you stop before you get to the core and settle for a superficial WHY.  And this is ineffective because it doesn’t give you the motivation to achieve your WHAT, especially when distractions come. 

Ready to go deeper on this topic? 

Let me help you dig your WHY.  I will give you 30 minutes of my time free of charge and, in return, you will give me an open mind to explore yourselves deeper.  I only have 5 slots a week to do this, so make sure you book one of them. I would like you to feel what it’s like to get clarity and see the impact it makes to your goals. 

Schedule your call here https://gotoyellow.co.uk/schedule-a-call/ and let’s start your 2020 off to a great start.

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Discovering Your Vision

Discovering Your Vision

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While 93% of the population set New Year’s resolutions, only 8% go on to achieve. What makes them different?

Until today, we have been following an ineffective approach. Before you set a goal, you must know why you are doing it in the first place. More importantly, it must be something that motivates YOU. Something deep and meaningful. 

The key I am going to share with you today is the driving force behind powerful goals – create a VISION for YOUR life. 

If you do not know where you are going, unfortunately, you are influenced by other people’s vision, the latest fad or culture expectation. This is neither healthy or sustainable. 

It is like driving with a blindfold on, with several co-drivers giving you guidance, hoping you’ll arrive at your destination. When you arrive at the destination, you realise you are not in the right place, leaving you feeling lost, stuck and deflated. Furthermore, you realise have wasted your precious time and energy and must start again. 

Why waste years of driving many roads, only to find out that you will arrive at the wrong location?

There is a more effective approach.

Get back in the driving seat, and steer yourself to a more fulfilling and purposeful life!

Here are the 5 keys leaders use to get ahead in life:

  1. Your Vision Awakened

To discover your vision you must truly understand your personal values, meaningful areas of your life to invest in (health, wealth, relationships, career etc), skills, passion and interests. 

  • Write a 10-year vision that is beyond what you believe to be obtainable (written in the present tense),
  • a 2-5 year mission of how you are going to live in order to achieve the vision, and
  • create a vision board!

When you are excited every time you read your vision and mission statements, it is then that you have truly grasped who you are and what the future will be. 

Once you have your statements, it is time to get creative. 

It is a simple as adding images of your ideal life, belongings, goals and affirmations onto a board or book.

Once created, display somewhere where you often go to remind you of the vision. Spend time before sleeping visualising each image as if you’ve absolutely mastered the act and achieved success. This will awaken the reticular activating system (RAS) – the part of your brain that will cut out distractions and see opportunities clearer. 

Like blinkers on a horse. You’ll be sure of the direction to your destination. 

         2. Get a Coach

It is no easy task in developing a clear picture of what you want the future to be, one that is authentic and without an expectation.

Often than not, those who do it alone, get caught in the same trap of travelling in someone else direction because they are unable to recognise what they truly want. 

Equally, it is challenging to know what is an actual limitation, and one that is just your negative narrative. 

Negative narratives can be anything from childhood conditioning, the identity you hold onto, and your beliefs. 

A coach will guide you to an empowering vision

            3. Power of Communication 

Being able to communicate a vision to others is advantageous. This is something that sets a leader apart. Leaders master the ability to share a clear and exciting vision for the future, and the ability to communicate effectively. 

Honouring your vision every day will have a positive effect across your peers, employees and personal relationships. Shifting peoples beliefs with possibilities, of what can be and will be, arouses emotion and motivates people to be their best selves. They will see this vision as belonging to them and will serve you in closing the gaps. 

Equally, your vision can repel others. This is good! You do not want people wasting your time and energy if they are not on the same journey. Reduce the number of stop signs and lighten your load, save yourself some fuel on your journey to success. 

           4. Forget Focusing on The Money

Of course, money is important. It is far more rewarding to be true to yourself and developing a life you desire, than focusing on the money. 

Money will come when you are authentic.

When you raise your standards, to be the best in business, you’ll only accept greatness. 

By not focusing on the money requires a resourceful way of thinking – the kind of thinking innovators have. Better decisions will be made with this mindset. 

          5. Keep Your Posture 

During times of hardship, conflict and crisis, leaders thrive most when they remain calm. In a study at Stanford Business School, they examined the qualities in leadership. It concluded with two qualities for success are putting a team together and patience under pressure.

Others observe greatly during these times, your next move is being recorded by many. 

“If you can keep your head when all around you are losing theirs and blaming it on you, then the world is yours and all that’s in it.”

To operate calmly, you MUST know where you are going.

Remember …the first key is most important before the following four. 

And if you are not convinced…

Who is a world leader at what they do?

Tesla.

Tesla’s vision statement is “to create the most compelling car company of the 21st century by driving the world’s transition to electric vehicles.” and their mission, “to accelerate the world’s transition to sustainable energy.”

Tesla is true to their vision, they communicate effectively, they influence and inspire the best, it is never about the money but rather the environment. They are innovators. They are leaders.

Do you want to be a leader or a follower?

Well, now you know where it starts. It is not about goal-setting, but rather a vision of your future. Goal-setting is the next phase.

Ready to go deeper on this topic? 

Work with me to unlock your greatest self, with Your Vision Awakened Workshop:

https://gotoyellow.co.uk/your-vision-awakened

Get back in the driving seat, and steer yourself to a more fulfilling and purposeful life!

Book your space on the workshop today – Your Vision Awakened

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